All of us on 125th Street. |
This movie has been on my mind a lot for this class, although, it also is a movie my sister and I showed our mother days before she transitioned. Guess we were trying to give her something to watch to distract her, but finally she said, "I am dying. I don't want to watch this."
Now I think of her statement and realize she had to say it out loud and this silly movie provided a space for her to say it. How would you say it? It cannot be an easy thing to do. My mother was terrified of dying. I realize this now that it must have been decades of her praying to stay alive, disabled with her left side paralyzed, speech impaired, legally blind, and sensitive to sounds, lights, well, lots of things as well as highly religious. Now I know how naive I was to even consider why someone might horde life over death no matter how rich are those streets of gold and hem of Jesus so readily available past Heaven's doors.
She told my sister and me she thought maybe she was a bad person, translated to she thought she was going to Hell. But I told her everyone gets in free to Paradise and at that late hour of her life, she bought it, and never looked back. As her hospice caregiver, soon after her transition, I used the bathroom and as I was washing my hands felt her behind me, giddy and free, thanking me. Dazed, I said, "you're welcome," and she was off to glory.
“People are often unreasonable and self-centered. Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of ulterior motives. Be kind anyway.
If you are honest, people may cheat you. Be honest anyway.
If you find happiness, people may be jealous. Be happy anyway.
The good you do today may be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway.
Give the world the best you have and it may never be enough. Give your best anyway.
For you see, in the end, it is between you and God. It was never between you and them anyway.” - Mother Teresa
So if Lucy thrashing around the long, long trailer helped her somewhat get there, then good. Like young women with newborns, my sister and I were trying to keep our mother as comfortable as we could and a movie from her generation seemed to be a good choice.
Thanks, Lucy and Desi. We still love you and my students will, too.
Te amo, mamacita.
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Speehless once again... Xox
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